Since I was fifteen, I thought there is less and less happy family in the world. There are less and less children living in a “happy family”.
When I was a junior high student, I found out that there are many classmates living only with his father or her father. Some of their parents divorced, some of them didn’t. And my parents didn’t divorce, but I didn’t think they were match or peace. They have usually fought loudly or even bitterly and violently for business or family since I was ten.
Until I enter a high school, I believed what I think. My close friends’ families weren’t peaceful or happy. Some were because of unfaithfulness of one of their parents; some were because of unmatched characteristics of their parents.
My parents are really busy; they have less time to take care of children. My older sister and I are dependent so they’re seldom worried about us. But they usually talk about their business, money after they come home. Sometimes they would quarrel about these. At dinner time, they continue to discuss about these, but they seldom talk about our things like school. Therefore, we usually listen to them about these and they would ask our grades when we have exams.
In the past, when I was little, I wasn’t so sensitive. I thought they are busy; I never think they seldom care about us or think my family is not happy until they have a big fight. At first time, I was shocked, scared and I thought there were getting divorced. However, they didn’t. Instead, they become so sweet on the next day. I felt strange and couldn’t understand. However, after that, they always do like this. So I began to think what a “happy family” is. I started to think whether my family is not happy or bad. Why my parents too busy to care about us? But I haven’t asked them. Sometimes, they would have bigger fights; I would be scared and thought maybe this time they would divorce. However, I am twenty-one now but they still don’t.
To my shock, when I come to Taipei to study, I thought there would be more cases like me, like my close friends, having an unhappy family. However, most of my friends in college have a “happy” and good family. There is no divorce or living apart among my friends’ family. Actually, year by year, I think if a family is rich, there is less possibility to have a happy family because when people get rich, they have more chance to do bad things. However, I didn’t find these among my friends’ family. I can’t say that I change my opinion because of the cases of my friends. But I start to believe there is not less and less happy family.
In fact, every family has its difficulties. No body can change it easily. However, every member has the responsibility to build a happy family. Not only should parents look after children but children need to care about them.
A happy family is not just because of no divorce. I have heard that a couple don’t divorce but they usually fight violently a lot. That would cause children big hurt mentally. What’s more, the couple still pretends sweet outsides. They don’t communicate with children about this issue. Most of children don’t hope their parents divorce; however, I don’t agree that they can fight violently in front of them, reconcile by themselves and pretend there is nothing happen. At the moment, how can children handle and accept this. They didn’t consider children’s feeling and fought in front of children’s face. Maybe they might say “we don’t divorce because of you children.” But I think they didn’t do the responsibility of the behavior.
We are lucky that we have family we are much luckier than orphan. A family is so important to a person. But a happy family is not according to richness or having much pocket money. I think a happy family should be filled with love and care. I had thought that if my mother can be less busy; then she can care us more. But, in fact, she works for us. I know that; nonetheless, sometimes I would be pretty innocent to hope so. But, I know she cares about us; after all, she lives hard for the family.
Iris